It’s not money.
It’s not love.
It’s not fame.
The two things that everybody desires is:
1. To be heard
2. To be seen
Regardless of what you amount to in life, to feel that you are seen and heard is all anyone wants.
To feel true peace in the heart is wishing to be understood in your life experiences.
As well as your story listened to in a human to human manner.
We live in a world where to be seen and heard are the meta desires of all humans. Meaning all other desires stem from this foundation.
You may argue that money is the solution to pain. Or better yet, that love can cure all pains of life. Even being remembered with fame will make you feel valued.
But I believe otherwise.
At the core of money, love, fame, is always to be seen and heard.
Let me explain further,
For money to flow to you, you must be able to communicate value to other humans. The exchange of value is just in the form of money. Money is the symbolic currency we created to quantify value exchange.
To receive money via business or work is to be recognized worthy of receiving, as well as communicating what you have to offer.
For example for a business to thrive it has to be seen [brand] appealing to its target customer.
For a business to be heard, it has to actively market to bring awareness to the people they want to do business with. If the message resonates the business has succeeded in being heard.
For Love….
This may be the root and rawest form of why these two matter.
To be heard in a relationship, means to actively want to understand, empathize, and put aside differences to bring love into the relationship.
We are human. Therefore we have needs and emotions that get out of line from time to time.
When you are heard in the relationship it makes the couple secure and comfortable to deal with issues.
Creating alignment to the betterment of love for the relationship – this is how you grow together.
To be seen in love means to stand in full acceptance at that time. We are not perfect and so many of us hide our true selves for fear of being shamed, ridiculed, or hurt.
When seen in a relationship, the acknowledgement of the present is all that matters. Both good and bad – all is fine.
Too many times, we are not seen or heard, which results in tensions, miscommunication of needs and feelings which create further problems.
But if we stop to actually see our partner in that moment for what they are experiencing. To listen sincerely in hearing their emotions then you build indestructible bonds.
Extra note, in love, but also relationships with anyone, being seen/heard is also just allowing people to express fully what they have experienced. Sometimes we cannot process our thoughts or emotions until we speak them out of our soul…
Finally, to be seen and heard in fame is to be authentic that society exalts you to be worthy of remembrance.
Social media is all just a game of being seen and heard. Think about it, we all are competing for attention and validation by acting in ways that you want to be genuinely acknowledged
When someone is able to authentically be themselves and their message is received by others deeply, then we feel valued.
Hence why support groups and niche interests are so effective online.
Honestly, I find fame to be the least valuable because at its core you cannot build healthy fame unless love in all relationships are settled first. Its the reason why you see over addicted youths or figures in society live on their social profile – yet feel empty inside, because nobody truly does know them.
Want to make someone’s day?
Actively listen to them and see them for who they are.
If we did that – I think many people would be happy and content with who they are.
